Take it from my experience, you don’t need to be a writer to write your story. You don’t need to be an author to decide to publish a memoir. I didn’t have any writing background when I decided to publish my first book, but I still decided to do it anyway.
Why?
Even though I wasn’t a writer, I knew my story would have an impact. My story was real, honest, and raw. Which will always be more important than good grammar skills.
You can always hire an editor to help you with that!
I told myself so many times, who would even care?
Why would anyone read my book?
My pregnancy wasn’t traumatic. I didn’t almost die on the table. I was just a regular mom. A mom who was exhausted, overwhelmed, ashamed, and didn’t understand why no one had warned her about that side of motherhood.
But I wasn’t just another mom. I was the one who decided to use my voice. I decided to write my story even though I didn’t think it was meaningful enough to speak up against motherhood taboos and to help other mothers feel seen, cared for, and supported. And THAT GOAL was way more important than my knowledge of how to use a semicolon.
The power of a memoir is to make people feel real and raw emotions. It’s about keeping it authentic and being honest so people can relate to you. You don’t need a big story. You just need a real one.
We keep hearing about these extraordinary stories on social media. These crazy accomplishments, and we start to believe that our story isn’t worth telling.
Your story might be even more interesting because it’s relatable. People will be able to connect with you. The stories that end up having the most impact aren’t the ones that were written by those who had the most grammar skills. They are the ones that come from truth and emotions. Those are the ones that resonate with people the most. Because what we need is connection. You don’t need to be famous, you don’t need to have written hundreds of books. You just need to be willing to tell your story and to start writing.
Let me tell you a secret: even the most experienced writer, even the girl who has already published ten books, still feels nervous about her writing. Every writer gets self-doubt about their ability to write a book. They worry that their story might not be good enough. They get nervous wondering if people will like them or not. Everyone thinks they are not qualified enough. The only difference is that authors don’t let it stop them.
They do it scared, but they do it anyway.
If you want to get started on writing your story but don’t know how, let me help you!
Step 1: Choose your topic.
You pick a theme, or a specific event or lesson in your life that could help you and others.
Step 2: Outline all of the memories and events that you remember about it and decide if you will write in chronological order or by topic.
Step 3: Write all of the events like a short story: What you saw, heard, felt, who was there, what changed in you, etc.
Step 4: Piece them all together and write in between the chapters to make the story flow.
Don’t worry about making it look good at first; your first draft isn’t supposed to be good. It’s supposed to be messy. But it’s there to help you have a starting point. Now that you have a first draft, congratulations!
You are officially a writer.
If you need other tips or have any questions, make sure to drop a comment down below, and I’ll be happy to share what I have learned with you.
You don’t have to have the most complex, terrific, dramatic story for it to be worth reading. Someone out there will love your story, will heavily relate to it, and probably needs it right now. Your biggest fan is out there, waiting to read your story.
What are you waiting for?
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